We will start with brief worship including relevant scripture, hymn, and prayer. [15]

Getting Oriented

Who are we?  We should have nametags even though most of us will know each other.  We will take a couple of minutes to go around the room with each saying our name, our local congregation, and a couple of words about why we chose to be at the workshop. [15]

Why are we here?  We should have someone, probably you, say a bit about the process of coming to the notion of the Peacemaker Fellowship and how the program fits into the vision of the future of the Conference.  This doesn’t need to be extensive, just a few minutes, but I think it is important to show that we are responding to an immediate need in the Conference. [7]

Where are we going?  Recognizing that this is a design/build project and the only thing we can be certain of is that what we will ultimately create is not what we have in mind but what God is leading us into, we can at least say a bit about our long range vision.  You can do this part or I will.  If I do it I will have a simple PowerPoint to go with it. [8]

Diving In

Outlines of a Theology of Conflict: Broad introduction of some of the themes we will be working with including: [30]

  • Christology: Not called to praise Jesus but to be the Body of Christ—growing into the fullness of Christ as a process of transformation
  • Ecclesiology: The Church is the community which supports our growth into the fullness of Christ.  We are a transforming and transformative fellowship.
  • The Law of Three: Source of the doctrine of the Trinity, Creation as the reconciliation of two apparently opposing forces by a third force.

Maps for the Journey: Development through stages as we come to know who and whose we are. [45]

Tools for Transformation: Creative Conflict Resolution as a mechanism for growth at just the point where we are most stuck and most open to change. [45]

At the close of this session each participant will be invited to select a persistent pattern of conflict in a significant relationship to use as the context for the exploration after lunch.

Lunch

Sharing over lunch with others about the persistent pattern of conflict we each want to address [45]

A New Way of Being

Finding a course of action that is centered in our place of greatest integrity, responding assertively in love, in a manner that moves us toward what we need such that everyone gets more of what they need.

Arising

Power, Abuse, Battering, and Violence [15]: consideration of some core terms in how conflicts are played out in interpersonal conflict

Structure of relationships [15]: Three ways to create a stable balance of rights and responsibilities

Arousing

Meaning making [10]:  The nature of cognitive maps in approaching the real

Cognitive distortions [10]: How trauma will skew our ability to know what is

Assertiveness [10]: What a healthy response is as differentiated from a reaction to a trigger

Longing

Knowing what we need (as distinguished from what we want) [15]: Some cognitive maps for clarifying what we actually need when conflicted circumstances arise.

Some case examples

Acknowledgement that there are many schools of conflict resolution and that some say the way to deal with troublemakers is to get rid of them.  Here are some examples of how to use these tools in the context of the local congregation.  If training participants want to offer a case from their experience we will work on it using Creative Conflict Resolution.[30]

Closing worship

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